A man was slammed online after complaining that his wife’s reluctance to wear makeup was causing problems with his family – and it ruined their wedding photos
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As with many things in life, makeup is completely optional.
There is absolutely no rule that says women must wear it and there is absolutely no rule that men cannot. You do you.
Even so, we all know that there can be pressure in society to look a certain way – especially on your wedding day.
A man recently made waves on the internet after explaining that his wife refuses to wear makeup and it is causing problems for her.
The nameless husband went over to Reddit to share about the times when he thinks it “expects / appropriate” for her to wear makeup but she doesn’t want to, such as on her wedding day.
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In a post on Am I The A ** hole forum, the man revealed how family members told his bride she would look better in wedding photos if she wore a little makeup – and after getting the pictures back, he could not help but agree.
He said: “My (32 M) wife (29 F) and I have been together for five years, married a little over two. One issue that crops up throughout our relationship is their refusal to ever wear makeup. I find her beautiful without it, but there have been times and occasions when it was expected / appropriate for her to wear makeup and she refused.
“For example, she didn’t wear makeup on our wedding day. Our two mothers tried to convince her but she said she’d never worn makeup and wouldn’t start on a day she was supposed to be enjoy.
“They tried to tell her the pictures weren’t going to come out that well, and honestly they were kind of right – she has huge bags under her eyes and I think the photos would have been nicer if she’d just put on concealer or something.”
He goes on to say that makeup is a problem for her again when his wife made some comments about not taking care of it at dinner with his family.
“We went to a family dinner last night with my parents, my sister and her husband, as well as my niece and nephew. My niece is 11 and has just started doing makeup – she watches a lot of YouTube tutorials and the like on Wife at dinner if she ever wore makeup and my wife said, ‘No, I don’t care therefore.’
“My niece asked why and gave a little speech about makeup being a waste of money and how she would feel like she was lying to herself for wearing it and that she was’ happy with the face that I have’.
“My sister got mad and said that she wore a lot of makeup and wasn’t lying to herself, and that it actually made her feel good. My wife replied, ‘Oh yes. I bet you could stop whenever you wanted. ‘ And then I kind of laughed, which upset my sister and let’s just say the rest of the evening wasn’t pleasant. “
When they got home, he claimed he asked his wife to be “less militant” about makeup and told her “it wouldn’t kill her” to wear it.
He adds, “I accused her of being too arrogant in her demeanor. She basically said that she has never had conversations about makeup, but that it’s always other people who annoy her about wearing it, and so on.” I said, ‘Maybe they’re right and you’re hardline about something really stupid and you have to get over yourself’ and she got upset and called me ad ** k because I thought she needed makeup and then we had to cool down separately.
“AITA because she thinks she’s making a fool of herself with makeup and telling her to get over her dislike?”
Since then, more than 1,000 people have replied to the post, with many criticizing the man for his comments.
One person said, “Did you wear concealer under your eyes at your wedding? I’m just saying you would have looked a lot better in the pictures if you had.”
Another wrote, “It’s such a disgusting double standard that women have to apply paint to make themselves more attractive to other people, but men can just roll out of bed and expect the world to accept them.
“Until men start putting on makeup and shaving their legs regularly, their opinion on whether a woman does or not doesn’t matter.”
A third replied, “You’re the asshole. She is content and happy without makeup. You are the one who is not.
“Personally, I hate wearing makeup, but I do TO CHOOSE to wear something on my wedding day and I do occasionally SELECT Applying eyeliner and lipstick when it makes me feel pretty. That is a valid choice. That’s how she wears it every day (my mom, for example, never left the house without her face and hair on point) or literally never wearing it. ”
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